The month of December signals the coming end of both the term and the year. With the holidays quickly approaching, it’s easy to get lost in the hustle and bustle of the season. For me, December brings a month of stress, worry, and exhaustion where the line between school and play is blurred. My personal to-do list for the next few weeks include:
- Decorating my apartment and spreading holiday joy
- Writing a 2500 word essay
- Studying for AND acing 4 final exams
- Organizing a potluck dinner
- Making food for said potluck
- Applying to summer job placements
- Planning a holiday squad getaway
- Finding the perfect gifts for my friends and family
Like me, I’m sure you all have your own December lists packed with school, friends, family, and little reindeers with red noses. My biggest weakness is wanting to take on everything in the world… all at the same time. When it comes to December, I can’t seem to not get involved. I want my friends and family to feel loved and to have a stress-free season, so I take on the daunting tasks of planning holiday parties, researching and booking ski lodges, making DIY presents for EVERYONE on my list, organizing get-togethers, baking sweet treats, and travelling to see friends.
For me, it’s so easy to get lost in my determination to do it all and to be Superwoman of December. I throw myself into my to-do list and turn off my brain. Before I know it, it’s January and I’m back at Western to start the new term. I blink and the whole month of December is over before I can even take it all in.
With wanting to be Superwoman comes wanting everything to be perfect. While I understand that mistakes on exams will be made and that not everyone is going to have a good time at gatherings, I still stress over the fact that not everything is going according to plan. Through all the stress I lose sight of the true meaning the holidays: spending time with family and friends.
Over the years, however, I’ve gotten much better at letting things be. I’ve stopped taking on so much and started focusing more on myself in December. This doesn’t mean I’ve stopped planning trips, or stopped baking homemade cookies. Rather, I’ve taken time to step back and just breathe. I’ve learned to appreciate what’s happening in the moment instead of focusing so heavily on the future. This year, I refuse to let December pass me by.
Perfection doesn’t mean having a “picture perfect” holiday, but rather a good time with friends and family the way we see fit. And to me, that means embracing whatever comes my way.