Hi friends! Brenda here and this is my obligatory introduction paragraph. As a first year, I’m super excited to be involved as a blogger. I hope you guys like reading my posts as much as I like writing them! Feel free to say hi to me if you see me around or provide any feedback.
So I get it, maintaining a long-distance relationship is hard. I get that it’s “suuuuuuuuper totally hard” to find time for each other when one of you goes to Western and the other goes to Queen’s. Skype dates never work out because Reznet is down (again). Weekends together are never enough time. I completely totally 100% get that LDRs are a real struggle. Try being in a LDR, then, with 6 other people.
What’s worse than long-distance relationships? Long-distance friendships. Everyone, myself included, has been there. Flashback to May where university acceptances are raining down like Oprah gives out audience gifts. I thought it was the best part of the year because I got to see the relief and joy of my friends as their top choice universities accepted them. Then June rolled around and reality of it hit me like a brick: everyone’s going to be separated next year. But hey, there’s always the summer because summer is forever! What I didn’t realize was just how quickly those two months passed, transitioning into September and university.
Thankfully, most of my friends go to Waterloo so it’s not as bad for us as it is for other people who are separated by time zones and oceans. Still, it’s rough. Best, and even great, friends are my rocks that keep me grounded when times are tough. It’s been really rough being separated, especially during midterms when my freak out levels can go from 0 to 100 in a second. Please tell me you can relate when I say these are the top 5 struggles of long-distance friendships:
- Time zones (bruh, sleep is for the weak);
- Seeing, and feeling jealous, of pictures on Facebook of your friends with their new friends but forcing yourself to swallow your pride and “Like” that picture anyways;
- Scheduling Skype dates but spending at least 30 minutes trying to fix Reznet because it keeps cutting out/lagging/overall just failing;
- Feeling useless when your friends need you and you can’t even offer them a hug, let alone have a movie night with junk food and,
- Being reunited for a few days and being cruelly forced away from each other again by well, y’know, school.
The best part about these friendships, however, is the reunion. Unlike long distance relationships, you can be reunited with the entire gang instead of just one person. For me, this means having Thanksgiving dinner with my close group of friends and their families. It was so amazing seeing everyone and catching up on all that I’ve missed.
If you’re in the same boat as myself, and feeling that detachment, try to remember that nothing, not even distance, will change the bond you have with your friends. After all, true friends will travel the extra kilometer and meet you halfway.
So, may your Internet be swift and your thumbs be quick as you try keeping in touch with everyone. Let me know if you have any tips on maintain the ever-painful long-distance friendship!